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TITLE: Imitation Bricks (Husbands)
TEXT: 1 Peter 3:7-9
PROPOSITION: Do not replace
Gods will with poor substitutes.
QUESTION: What?
KEY WORD: Substitutes
SCRIPTURE READING: Same
INTRODUCTION:
- Series
on Building the Home.
- We
talked about bricks for husbands and wives.
- Today
is a warning do not make cheap substitutes.
- Restaurant
menu No Substitutes
Provide a Living vs. Sharing a Life
- 1
Timothy 5:8 Provide for your own household
- She did
not marry your paycheck.
- Husband
at the grave of his wife I gave her
everything except myself.
- Suggestions:
Give her Time Attention Dates
Understanding Time off
Demand vs. Managing
- Many
have developed a Macho Man image of manhood.
-
- I
rule the roost. She rules the rooster.
- Man
is head wife is neck. Neck turns the head.
- Boss
at work = shout, bully, command, threaten,
hot-shot, bark orders
- Boss
at home = manager, understanding, partner
- Quote
from Jay Adams in Strike the Original Match, page 63.
- Rise in
domestic violence, battered wives from a man who MUST BE
IN CONTROL!
Smothering vs. Honoring
- Honor?
Yes! Smother? NO!
- Honor =
appreciate, allow room, give space, seek advice
- Smother
= place on shelf, worship, adore, protect
- She is
not an untouchable, china doll.
Add to the list (vs. 8-9)
- Hypocrisy
vs. Harmony = of one mind
- Self-centered
instead of Sympathetic = compassionate
- Enemy
rather than Brotherly = love as a brother
- Pride
substituted for Humble
- Curt in
place of Courteous
- Vengeance
not better than returning good for evil
- Fuss in
place of Blessing (so that you will be blessed)
Conclusion:
- Ecstasy
can be become agony.
- Stop
being phony and start being the
real man of the house.
Husband as Manager
The husbands job is to manage his
family. That is the best translation of the word
proistemi. The idea is to preside over.
The picture is of one who has control but does not do everything
by himself. As the elder is to a manager of a congregation, so
the husband is to be a manager of his home. A good manager knows
how to develop, and use the gifts of others. That is what a
manger is and that is what a husband is to be.
The husband as head of the home is its
manager. He is the head; the head does not do the work of the
body. The husband is not to answer every question or think every
thought for his wife exactly not that. Rather, he is to
recognize that God gave him a wife to be a helper. A good manager
will look at his helper and say, She has certain abilities.
If I am going to manage my household well, I must see that every
last one of those gifts is developed and put to use as fully as
possible. He will not want to squash her personality:
rather, he will seek to bring it to the fullest flower.
Jay Adams, Christian Living in the Home,
1972, pp. 76-77
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